5 Books That Made Me a Better Mom

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Once upon a time I had no idea how to be a mom. Sure, I knew the very basics of childcare..feed them, keep them clean, love them… What I needed help with was how to parent our little ones, help becoming a better mom.

Everyone said how naturally motherhood comes and not to worry about it…I’ll find my way. That is NOT how it worked for me, the mothering instinct didn’t just come naturally, I had to find it. 

In fact, I spent a few years floundering around trying to figure out this parenting gig.

Then I started reading.

I love to read, mostly novels, but in my quest to become a better mom I fell in love with parenting books. I have read many, many parenting books over the last 5 years or so and there are a few that really stood out among the others.

Five Books That Made Me a Better Mom

That is what I am sharing with you today, the 5 books that made me a better mom.

Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) The premise of this book is to let kids make their own decisions, experience the consequences and learn from their mistakes (obviously apart from any serious danger). Allowing them to learn about the world in such a manner helps them grow as people and have a better understanding of the world in which we live.

This is one of the books that really changed how I viewed parenting. In the beginning of this parenting journey I was a “helicopter” and a “talker” swooping in to avoid even the smallest of problems and then tried to talk and reason with my little one until I was blue in the face.

Which looking back was so silly. How did I ever expect a toddler to understand what I was talking about? This book helped me take a step back and just let them be as long as they weren’t in any horrible danger.

In doing so, parenting became a little less exhausting.

There is so much more to this book to even try to explain here. I will say that I did think some of the examples were a little extreme and didn’t completely sit well with me. But as with everything I do in life I apply what I like about something and ditch the rest.

That is what I did here.

The 5 Love Languages of Children I am a really big fan of the original 5 Love Languages, which is written to adults in committed relationships. So I was really excited to read this one and I loved it just as much as the first one.

Everyone gives and receives love in different ways, kids are no exception. This book will teach you how to show your love for your kids in ways that are best for them.

This book has taught me how to communicate effectively with each of my children.

You do not need to read the original 5 Love Languages to read this. Everything you need to know in regards to implementing this with children is contained in this book.

Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men

I have to start out by saying that this was NOT an easy to read book. Do not save this for your bedtime reading. There are so many studies referenced and data comparisons that you really need to be in a more alert state to understand everything.

Well, at least that is how it worked out for me…My exhausted mom brain just couldn’t handle thinking like that at night, instead I read it during my early morning coffee time before the crazies woke up.

Boys Adrift is a very detailed and well researched book it wasn’t filled with a bunch of pseudoscience like a lot of other parenting books out there.

I  chose this book because I was having a hard time relating to my son. As a woman I have no idea what it is like to be a boy. Much less be a boy in today’s society.

There is so much conflicting data out there, I was having a hard time sifting through it all. This book fixed that problem for me! It gave me real insight on what it means to be a boy in today’s world AND suggestions on how to navigate through it.

NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children A very fun read for sure and again very well researched. The authors did a really good job debunking a lot of  antiquated parenting advice.

I don’t want to spoil it for you but out of all the parenting books I have ever read this one has been the most fun and thought provoking.

Hands Free Mama: A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters!

I almost didn’t read this one. A lot of reviews were criticizing the author for being “too perfect” or her kids were “too well behaved” and that a lot of mothers just didn’t relate to her, feeling as though she was just “over privileged.”

After a lot of hemming and hawing over the decision I decided to read it.

And I am glad I did.

Much of what she said in the book resonated with me pretty deeply. It was a gentle reminder of why I chose to be a stay-at-home-mom. I wanted to be present for our children. I wanted to live our life intentionally and connect as a family on a deeper level.

Somehow I lost these values along the way. Maybe it was the exhaustion, maybe I was just plain burned out, whatever the reason at one point I found myself so disconnected I wondered what the point of staying home was any more.

That is not to say that this book is only good for stay-at-home-moms. I think any mother can benefit from this if they are finding themselves disconnected from their family and want to rekindle the family bond.

So there you have it, the 5 books that made me a better mom! 

I would love to hear what books have shaped you as a parent? Leave your comments below! 

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