This year will be my 9th year celebrating Mother’s Day! Motherhood didn’t come to me easily. I had been told many, many times that I would never carry my own child.
The fact that I was able to have 3 healthy, full-term babies has been a gift and Mother’s Day is a day I truly cherish.
That is not to say I expect a huge production to celebrate the occasion, no I prefer just the opposite. I like to keep things simple and meaningful.
Over the years my husband has learned this the hard way. In an effort to make the day special he would spend a ton of money on gifts and try to do some “mom things” so I could relax.
Sounds sweet right?
It was always a nice idea and it is the thought that counts…yada, yada, yada…
But you know what they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions!
Even on Mother’s Day.
Up until last year, every Mother’s Day had some sort of mishap or blunder that would leave us all in a bad mood…well mostly me.
After an epic blowout my husband asked me what I wanted because nothing ever seemed to make me happy.
The look of shock upon his face was amusing.
“What do you mean nothing?” he asked.
I rephrased my answer.
“I don’t want jewelry, breakfast in bed or any other hokey Mother’s Day gift idea. I just want to do something fun together as a family! It could be as simple as getting lunch and hitting the park or going on a hike together. You don’t even have to plan it, just go along with my plans without complaint…for just one day.”
Long story short, that is how my perfect Mother’s Day was born.
Anyhow, I thought I would share my list of what not to do on Mother’s Day. I am sure some of you can relate. Looking back I find some of these a little funny…just a little.
Don’t do something because you think you have to!
Flowers, chocolate, breakfast in bed…it all loses its meaning when it is done simply because you think you have to.
How can I tell the difference?
Every holiday is the exact same song and dance with no other acknowledgment to what we are actually “celebrating.”
If you really want to do something special, put some thought into it and make it uniquely you, just keep it simple!
Don’t make me breakfast and let me sleep in…
Unless you plan on actually feeding the kids and cleaning up the kitchen.
The last thing I want to do on Mother’s Day is wake up to starving, cranky kids and a mountain of dirty dishes.
In fact, that last statement is my own personal form of hell.
I would much rather it be business as usual than deal with that.
Did I mention that pulling the “I cooked, you clean” bit is a really bad idea? Don’t do it!
If you really want to help me out, take the kids and pick up some donuts and coffee.
Even I enjoy a donut every once in a while.
Don’t spend a ton of money on me!
We are not rich and I know money doesn’t grow on trees.
I don’t wear jewelry or fancy clothes. I am not one who always needs to have the newest gadget that comes out.
I do not look at Mother’s Day as another opportunity to get “stuff.”
There are so many other ways to make me feel special and none of them require money.
Don’t hold Mother’s Day over my head for the rest of the year!
One year I was reminded about how I got to spend Mother’s Day alone.
Yes, I got 2 hours away from our little crazies and spent the entire year hearing about it!
Don’t do this. It will come across wrong no matter how innocent it seems.
I believe in our case it was just a really bad choice of words in the heat of the moment.
But none the less, I initially perceived it as a way to guilt trip me.
Remember: perception is everything.
Let’s just get this one out in the open and settle it once and for all.
There is no such thing as Mother’s Day sex!
We have both learned a lot from each other through all our mistakes over the years.
This is in no way implying that I am perfect or that I don’t appreciate all my husband does for me.
Because I do.
He is a good guy, but like all good men they require a little training in the husband department.