Motherhood isn’t always easy. We mamas might complain a lot, but at the core we love our crazy kiddos more than life itself. There are so many things that make motherhood amazing.
A few weeks a go I wrote a post titled “10 Things I Hate About Motherhood” so I thought it would be fitting to do a similar post from the opposite angle.
Here are the top 10 things that make motherhood amazing!
1. The cuddles, kisses and I Love You’s
As much as I may complain about being “touched out” by the end of the day, I wouldn’t change this for the world.
One thing I try to remember here is that before I know it the kids are going to want my hugs and kisses less and less. They’re only going to want me to tuck them in at night for a short while more.
In fact, these things are already beginning to happen. My sweet baby boy has asked me to give him a see ya later kiss before the bus pulls up to the house. He doesn’t want the “guys” (I find this funny because he is only 7) to see him kiss his mommy.
While I was momentarily heart broken, I respected his wishes and am just happy he still wants his see ya later kiss.
2. Watching our kids grow and blossom
Over the years I have found the growth and development of children fascinating. It is only with our children that we get to see a baby develop from the size of a grain of rice all the way through to adulthood.
I have loved everything from watching them learning to walk and talk all the way to watching them navigate through friendships and learning to deal with hardships of life.
It can be hard to watch these things, but the amazing part is realizing how bright and resilient our kids are and that we had a hand in who they have become.
This makes me excited for what the future holds.
3. Knowing unconditional love
It wasn’t until I became a mother that I truly understood unconditional love.
Throughout much of my life I never understood what unconditional love meant or felt like. Sure, I knew what the dictionary definition of it was, but the deep down knowing in my soul just wasn’t there.
I spent much of my early adult life feeling rather cold and disconnected. There was this nagging feeling that I just didn’t belong anywhere or with anyone. I was a reckless mess up until I had my first baby.
That was when everything changed. It didn’t happen overnight, but slowly I developed what I now understand as unconditional love. I felt needed and wanted and new I was exactly where I was supposed to be.
My heart grew a thousand times over each day. Some days I thought my heart would explode with all the love that I had for that squishy baby. The love I developed only continued to grow as we added more children to our family.
4. Doing all the things I enjoyed as a kid with our kids.
Like I said in a previous post, my family didn’t have too many traditions. As a child I always wanted to have more traditions, but growing up in a working class family my parents just didn’t have time to do all that stuff.
I have carried on the traditions from my family that I really liked along with some other things I enjoyed growing up. While our kids don’t love everything as much as I did as a kid, I still have fun showing them what life was like before cell phones, ipads and computers!
They get a kick out of seeing how we made our own fun back then.
Man do I feel old now…
5. Creating new family traditions
It is so important to me to have family traditions. I really wanted a lot of our family traditions to revolve around the different holidays.
Each Christmas we have “12 days of cookies” where we bake a different cookie each day for 12 days before Christmas. It is a ton of work for me, but the kids LOVE everything that goes into this. That makes the work worth it in my book.
6. Cultivating a family bond
As a family we have a pretty amazing bond. This was something I really didn’t feel like I had as a kid. I grew up with decent parents but they were always busy so as I got older I really didn’t feel like I knew my parents.
When I decided to have kids I knew I wanted them to grow up differently. I want them to know me in all my glory. I want our children to know and understand their father in ways that I was never able to. I also wanted them to have a relationship with their extended family.
As our children have grown I have seen these things come to fruition and it is a beautiful thing. It is my hope that as they continue to grow these bonds that we have developed only become stronger.
7. Seeing our kids become best friends
This was another big thing that I wanted to do differently for our kids. I really wanted them to be great friends throughout their lives.
My siblings and I really didn’t get along well until we were adults. I am happy to say that our kids truly are each others best friends. Sure, they have their own friends outside of our family. But when it comes down to their sibling bond, their friendship with each other is unmatched.
They protect each there, they cheer for each other and they feel sadness for each other.
This is one of the things that make motherhood amazing for me.
8. Being a role model for them
Throughout much of my life I never considered myself “role model material.” As I have gotten older and found my place in life I have come to realize that I have done some pretty awesome things.
I love that our girls look up to me. They want to be a mom and a service member. They want to go to college like I am doing. They want to rescue dogs like I do.
Our son tells me he wants to find a wife just like me and that makes me smile.
I am flattered that they view me in this light. It is my hope that I continue to be the person they look up to.
9. Viewing life through their eyes
As adults it can be hard to see the softer sides of life. We get so wrapped up in our jobs and paying bills that we often forget to stop and appreciate the little things that life has to offer.
Our children force us to stop and see things through their eyes. Allowing ourselves to get lost in child-like wonder on a regular basis keeps us young. Viewing life from their perspective also allows us to have a better understanding of who our children are.
10. Being their soft place to fall
I love the fact that after a long, hard day at school our kids come home and vent to me. They tell me all about their day. Sometimes they even need a shoulder to cry on.
These things make motherhood amazing because they allow us to practice empathy and compassion for our children.
Being their soft place to fall is also a way to keep communication open as our children grow into teenagers. I want our kids to feel that they can always come to me for anything and this is where that starts.
This list of things that make motherhood amazing is not by any means exhaustive. There were hundreds of things that I could have come up with. I simply narrowed my list down to the things that were the most important to me.
I hope you enjoyed this post! Are there any things that I didn’t list that make motherhood amazing for you? If so I would love to hear them in the comments below!